Etiquettes of Advising the Parents

It is obligatory upon the Muslims to honour their parents, show kindness towards them and gentleness and mercy, as Allaah (subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) says:

"And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents", Soorah al-Israa., Aayah 23

And He (subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) (also) says: "...give thanks to Me and to your parents. To Me is the final destination", Soorah Luqmaan, Aayah 14

And He ('Azza wa Jall) (also) says: "And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents", Soorah al-Ahqaaf, Aayah 15

So if he sees in them anything detestable, then he is to advise them with good manners, gentleness and mercy; And in doing so, he can seek the assistance of someone whom his parents respect and appreciate his advice, being careful not to scold them nor be severe in speech towards them, in accordance to that which has preceded from the (aforementioned) Aayaat, and the statement of the Prophet (sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) when he was asked about which action is the best? And He (sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) replied:

"Prayer at its appointed time", and it was said to him, "Then which?" And he replied:

"Honouring the parents", and it was said to him, "Then which?" And he replied:

"Jihaad in the path of Allaah", [From the authentic hadeeth of 'Abdullaah ibn Mas'ood as transmitted by al-Bukhaaree and Muslim]

Shaykh Ibn Baaz

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